I'm the Marquise, a Fem Dom "lifestyler". By choice and passion, rather than financial imperatives.

For Me there is no more satisfying experience than the "opening" of a submissive to their deepest desires; to see someone reach their fullest potential and to help them satiate their greatest need. I find a spiritual enjoyment in My Dominance as well as it being sensually and intellectually arousing. It is My passion, who I am more than something I do.

I am into Domination and submission, rather than S/M for its own sake. I use pain as a demonstration of My power and to make My submissive partner acutely aware that he has freely given himself to Me. This also lays on Me a responsibility to control Myself before I can hope to do so to another. A submissive must be able to trust Me to a very high degree.

What you read on My website may not be how you see bdsm. That is fine; it is My way and satisfies Me. I have no siege mentality about My proclivities; they simply work for Me. 'Horses for courses' would be one way of putting it. Whether you are Vanilla, bi, gay, Dominant, submissive, or any combination of those, if you are living true to yourself you will find your way to be as rewarding as I do Mine.

It is my responsibility to see that the holistic needs of My submissive are met. He needs consistency and security. This is an enormous undertaking, a blend of play, performance, needs, punishment and pleasure. A careful balance, not of compromise, but consideration, understanding, fantasy and fact.

My sessions are intense and often the fine nuances are much richer than play in a predetermined scene. It's a meeting of minds; almost a dance. In a dungeon it's nearly all physical control. I relate to something more sensual and domestic. I lead in a caring, loving way with a judicious mixture of cruelty. Rather than using a lot of physical equipment, My mind and the power of My sexuality are My tools. It's a sophisticated approach.
A limited, standard menu engenders predictability within BDSM, which bores Me. The best scenes will always be where a true, every day domination can be used on a slave. He is not just there for his thrills but to provide comfort for Me throughout My day. However well a dungeon may be equipped, it has its limits. But when I deal with the mind and with domination, it is limitless. Time and space are transcended as we enact fantasies from the very simple to the totally outlandish, a glimpse for us of what one day might become reality.
I am a nurturing sadist. It's not a contradiction. My passion is to bring a submissive into that blissful place where he has been taken out of life, head, and control, to be delivered unto My erotic realm. It is because of My wisdom, strength and sexual prowess that I can bring this about, without having to rely on the threat of force to pluck surrender.
I adore extracting the demeanour and actions of subjugation. Pleading eyes that scream 'take me' are guaranteed to make Me wet. A slave gets lost in his surrender to Me and serves properly, fully, respectfully, and I do all this even without a whip in sight.
My thoughts are always teeming with scenarios of intricate ways to tame the male animal. I was either born this way or learned the behaviour so early that it makes no effective difference.

Personal interests in art, music, literature, cinema, dance, fine dining, psychology, sociology, politics and philosophy have all been useful tools in comprehending the intrinsic nature of My identity and expressing this through Fem Dom.

It is never easy being a Dominant Woman in a consistently male dominated world. I am not in the closet but I can't be out to those who, through ignorance, would seek to discredit Me. If I am directly asked I will inform anyone that I'm Dominant. Maybe one day I will even be able to walk My slaves around outdoors on leads! What a wonderful world that would be!
There are many ways of being a dominant and space for a plurality of styles, but for Me, this encompasses a complete psychosexual landscape, which is as complex and varied as the number of people in this world. I don't hate men, I enjoy owning them! I am a powerful woman and have the ability and knowledge to take males to the uncharted places of the mind and body. All these areas already exist within them. It is My gift to see the potential, direct the journey and forge the path. I value men who give Me their submission. I observe limits and am caring and ethical in My approach.

Being a Lifestyle Dominant does not give Me the right to abuse anyone. Nor would I want to do so. It defines how I relate to others. I ensure that the tone and nature of these varied relationships have positive outcomes. I do not shout to make a slave sacrifice himself for Me. That method of domination is below Me. I have an acute understanding of human nature and use more sensitive methods that result in long term commitment and trusting subservience.

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